My dad went to the doctor and the doc told him it’s stress. He’s been out of work for the last 2 weeks and he was advised by the doctor to stay out for another 2 weeks. I’m worrying cause i always thought it would be my mom who’d suffer from stress. It’s not cause of a young child or anything. The youngest is 13 this month.
His brother died last month and that’s what started all this. He even said that he had dreams about his brother.
So i was wondering what are the best way to help stop stress.
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1 Sandra // Sep 7, 2009 at 11:52 pm
There are a lot of things which can lead to stress and stress reactions. The problem is: There is not only one solution.
You can stop stress by taking a walk or doing any kind of sport, but as we know… not everybody likes that.
Some people need time to read a good book… so their mind is away from the daily problems.
A holiday could be good, if it´s possible.
If the job is causing the stress, it´s good to cut down the working hours or to find a better way to keep up with the work.
To me it sounds more like your dad is hit strongly by grief. When he says he even dreams of his brother. It will take time until he gets over this loss. Maybe he can go to a bereaved consel and get help there.
Maybe you want to go wih him, so he knows he isn´t alone.
2 princesslibra8 // Sep 10, 2009 at 8:17 pm
Sorry for you passing
The death in the family is playing a big role, he needs to learn how to let go, it won’t be easy and it has nothing to do with forgetting about your brother, it’s learning how to except that he is no longer here.
Doing a hobbies or a interest in activity might help to keep him busy
Exercising help to release a lot of stress
The family coming together having a family day cooking together and talking, playing board games.
Everyone in the household needs to come together and talk don’t just leave him alone, go for a walk in the park
Sometime painful situations in life either make you or break you
Use the time to become a stronger family because as you have experience life is to short and you all need to make the best of it
I wish you luck I hope your father feels better
3 naturegirlhd // Sep 12, 2009 at 8:54 am
First off, he has to go through the grieving process before his thinking changes. It’s normal to have visits from someone who just died. When my son first got killed, he was in my dreams for a long time. Allow him the time to grieve his brother. Right now he probably feels alone. He may always feel a part of him is missing. Be there for him and remind him of the good that is still around him. As he feels his feelings, he will start to reconize the good again. Be helpful around the house and with your family. Spend some time with your younger siblings and most importantly be his friend. He will come around. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
4 spectrumsibling // Sep 14, 2009 at 2:07 am
Stress and anxiety can be treated effectively in a variety of ways:
1. Medications (daily or as-needed)
2. Counseling/Therapy with a professional
3. Self-Help methods like Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy
I would say first he needs to see a counselor. He or she may prescribe a medication to be taken every day (ie. Prozac, Lexapro, Effexor, etc.) , or as needed for particularly stressful times (ie. Xanax). Talking to a counselor can help identify what causes stress and how to deal with it so that it does not become debilitating. In addition to that, I would recommend you locate a cognitive-behavioral therapy program that can be worked on daily in the privacy and comfort of home, and at any time that is convenient. Try a Google search for a torrent of “The Midwest Center’s Attacking Anxiety and Depression” program. It’s a good program, but it’s highly overpriced and you can find the complete torrent, including the workbook, online for free.
5 keepin on // Sep 16, 2009 at 9:09 pm
Everyone needs time to grieve. Give your Dad the love and support he needs. Go to church together if you are a believer, talk about the loss, and stick closely together.
The grieving process is different for everyone. One thing is for sure, time does heal. When I lost my dad 23 years ago I wasn’t sure I could cope. Now I see his smiles in my children and feel his love in my heart.
You all stay strong.
God Bless
6 Pinkpoet M // Sep 19, 2009 at 6:33 am
I’m on Vilift. Helps me with stress, depression and anxiety. It is 100% natural so there’s no need to worry about side effects.
7 maribelforayo // Sep 21, 2009 at 7:48 am
Let him do something fun like playing some sport. Creating some artworks is also a good way.
For stress caused by the loss of a love one, only time can heal the hurt.
He may also need a professional help. The stress may not be because of the loss per se but maybe for some guilt feelings. Most people feel guilty about not giving their full love to someone who is gone now.
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